Fastening the Tefilin Seated / Sheb’a Berakhot & Singing for the Shabat ‘Hatan

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Wednesday, 10 November 2010 | AP | Marriage, Tefilin

1 Kislev 5771 – Nov. 8, 2010. – Perashat Vayesé
 

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Netibot haMa’arab – e”H Ribi Eliyahou Bitton s”t
Tefilin  


2.  Fastening the Tefilin Seated 

The accepted and most common minhag is to sit while reciting the berakha and while fastening the tefilin shel yad on the arm, but to stand when affixing the tefilin shel  roshon the head. [1]

Some, conversely, stand when reciting the blessing as well, sitting only when fastening the shel-yad. [2] Others still, stand even when fastening the shel-yad. [3]

[1] Many contemporary ribis, among them Ribi Shalom Messas zs”l (Shemesh uMagen,Heleq 2 H“M §3:2), Ribi Yedidya Monsonego (Pirhé Shoshanim §400), and Ribi Yehoshu’a Maman (‘Emeq Yehoshu’a, Heleq 3 § 31), have confirmed this to be the accepted minhag, and that in Morocco this was always the custom of Tora scholars and those who were careful about halakha.


[2] This minhag is really a compromise between halakha, which recommends standing when fastening the tefilin shel yad, and Qabala, as the Arizal instructs one to be seated during this time. This minhag is mentioned in the sidur Bet ‘Obed (Laws of Tefilin §27) and by the Rama (O”H §25). It is a fairly common minhag and was the prevailing custom in the city of Tetouan.


[3] This practice was widespread among laymen (see Ribi Yosef Messas zs”l in MayimHayimHeleq 2 O”H §93); yet, they were not rebuked by the ribis (Ribi Shalom Messas  zs”l in Tebuot Shemesh Heleq 1, §67), making this practice perfectly legitimate from ahalakhic standpoint. Nevertheless, since this was not the practice of Tora scholars, I hesitate to give it the status of a bona fide minhag.

Customs of Weddings and Marriage

59) When doing the seven blessings during Birkat haMazon we do it on only one cup and  the blessing of “boré peri hagefen” is done first. The reason is that there is no need to have two cups of wine (since normally one needs one cup for each holy thing) or to do more than one blessing on one cup because the Birkat haMazon is the cause itself of the blessing of marriage [since it is only for the sake of the Birkat haMazon that we are reciting these blessings at this moment]. See Nahagu ha’Am pg. 211, Shulhan ‘Arukh (E”H Siman 62:9), and Meqor Hayim Siman 238:17.


60) On the “Shabat Hatan,” aka “Shabat veAbraham Zaqen” (the Shabat that succeeds the wedding), we increase in singing and happiness in honour of the groom so that even between “Barukh Sheamar” and the ” ‘Amida” we say each paragraph in a different melody, all in praise of Hashem the Creator of Heaven and Earth. This is because during the seven days after the wedding there is a misva to make the bride and groom happy as Hazal say (Berakhot 5a) “everyone who makes the bride and groom happy merits the Tora that was given in five voices” (meaning they merit much comprehension of the Tora). See Shemesh uMagen (Heleq 3, Siman 85).

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Our holy sages, Hazal, teach us that “one who studies [at least two] Halakhot (laws) daily is guaranteed a portion in ‘Olam Haba (the world to come).” -Masekhet Meghila 28b

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